Ladies let’s talk about self-care. It’s not wrong to put you first, recharge, regroup, go out and have a day to just truly pamper yourself. Do not feel bad for taking care of yourself. As we become mothers, wives, and girlfriends, we tend to lose sight of just being ourselves.
Too often we’re made to feel as if putting our needs first is selfish. We’re here to tell you it’s not. How can you be the best if you never take time out for the most important person and that person would be you! There is an old saying, you cannot pour from an empty cup. That saying is true. How can you be the best mom, wife, businesswoman, etc.… if you never stop and relax?
Spa days are so relaxing and help to remove tension. Life is hard enough and without some unwind time you’re making life harder than it needs to be. There is now a phrase coined Mom-cation. Now, what is a Mom-cation? Very simple definition. When a woman who has children takes time for herself i.e., a spa day, renting a room for the night or weekend to be alone and enjoy the sound of nothing that is a Mom-cation.
This can also consist of hair and nails. All in all, it’s a time in which you take a break for yourself and love yourself. This helps to recharge and when you get back to “reality” you can be at 100 percent rather than running on an empty battery. As women, we need this. So much is placed on our plates, and we tend to forget about ourselves. Which is very easy to do, unfortunately.
An article published by Southern New Hampshire University on April 14, 2020; written by Matthew Glowiak states self-care is very important for a few different reasons. Given the current state of the economy taking time out for yourself is extremely healthy. During the pandemic, there has been a rise in divorce, depression, and job loss. Keeping your sanity is important. It’s already easy to lose yourself but to be locked down, quarantined, no job that can cause depression.
Self-care can be critical to your sanity. This process can also include therapy. Therapy is frowned upon in our community, but it’s worth it, and the narrative around it is slowly beginning to change for the better. For health reasons, mental clarity, and just taking a break from life, therapy is necessary for both preventative care and treatment.
Taking that time for yourself should be at the top of your to-do list. Per Matthew Glowiak, Burning the candle at both ends, so to speak, comes with significant consequences, which may include but are not limited to burnout, anxiety, resentment, and a whole host of other negative implications. Taking care of yourself is not you being selfish it’s you nurturing yourself and getting that much-needed break. Go out to eat either with a friend or go alone.
Get a v-steam, go out and get that manicure and pedicure. It’s ok to love on you and feel good about it. Love you out loud with no regrets. Self-care is the best care. Finally, the main reason we don’t have time to pamper ourselves is due to “lack of time”. Make time for you to remember yourself, just like everyone else needs you. — You need you also.